How do I know if he actually likes me or if he just wants ?

It sounds like he's going to want a very ual relationship. And you might be too much drama for him in the long run. If he's saying shut up like that, even if it is in a flirtatious way. If you're the type that likes to talk about your day. And at times talk about things that you did not think went well. He might not be the type that wants to hear it. That's up to you, whether that's a problem or not.